There’s nothing quite like a chat with an old friend to
lift your spirits. As time moves on and
families grow and so too do time commitments, I have found it increasingly
difficult to catch up with my college girls.
I think about them often, the carefree times we shared, living and
travelling the world together, taking our first real independent steps into
adulthood. Get togethers are few and far between and I miss them. I miss the divilment we used to get up to and
I miss the chats and laughter that comes with sharing your life with friends. And
I miss that they don’t really know the person that I am now. This Mommy person,
who bakes, while doing homework and emptying the dishwasher before heading off
to teach fitness classes is a tad different than the chain smoking, vodka
swilling, centre of the dancefloor, wild woman, I once was.
Feeling nostalgic and under the guise of watching rugby
training, I managed to sneak in an hour-long phone catch up with one of my best
buds. Within minutes of her picking up, I
felt lighter, my mood was lifted and it got me thinking about just how hugely
important our closest circles are and that even though we may be separated by
distance and time, our friendships are our support systems, our tribe, and in many
cases a lifeline. By the time I hung up,
we had barley stopped to breathe, as we caught each other up, tried to solve
problems, laughed and promised to make meet up plans really soon. And I vowed, as I always do, to simply make a
greater effort to foster the important relationships in my life. But how?
Life coach Mar Healy has some sage advice. “I always think that the arrival of a new
baby is a good opportunity to figure out which friendships really matter to
you, and which you might need to look at letting go of. Your time is more precious now, than ever
before, and you want to invest in friendships that nourish and support you and
add to your life in a positive way. If
you come away from meeting a friend feeling, good, happy and a little better,
then you’ve got a good one and you should try to hang on to it. If on the flip side, your time together is
always draining or hard work, it may be better to delicately let go and move
on. Making regular time to meet a good
friend, who you feel relaxed and happy around, and who lifts your spirits is a
brilliant way to be a better Mama. You
get time out and head space, quality adult human connection, and, as a result,
come home a kinder, more tolerant and happier person to your little ones, and
so everyone wins”.
As I get older and time becomes more of a precious
commodity I’ve decided to take this advice and to truly invest in the people
who support me, build me up and love me most.
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